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Boost your Willpower to make yourself mentally strong

Learn how to increase your willpower with these unique methods. These simple and effective tips will increase your willpower and make you mentally strong.

In my previous post on Understanding Self-Control, a skill must for Success in Life we have understood the importance of self-control, what we can control and what we cannot control in our life. Today let us understand the very important aspect to control your life “Willpower”. Willpower is what can make you mentally strong. Let us discuss this in details.

Meaning of Willpower:

Dictionary Meaning:

control exerted to do something or restrain impulses.

Understanding the meaning in detail, let us become mentally strong:

Willpower is the ability to resist short-term gratification in pursuit of long-term goals.

Let me give you a simple example to understand Willpower. Willpower is all about overcoming your natural impulses to eat cakes, donuts, skip your workout, snoozing the Alarm Clock, checking e-mails while in meeting, checking Whats App or Facebook while have conversation with Family or Friends.

Quotes on Willpower (Mentally Strong):

The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack of will. ~ Vince Lombardi


Most of life’s actions are within our reach, but decisions take willpower. ~ Robert Mckee


Willpower is not something you have or something you lack. It rises and falls.

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Biggest enemies of willpower, who stops you from becoming Mentally Strong:

  • The biggest enemies of willpower:
    • Temptation, self-criticism and stress
    • Three skills, which lays the foundation for Willpower and self-control, are:
      • Self-awareness
      • Self-care
      • Remembering what matters most

How to become mentally strong by boosting willpower:

10 minute meditation:

Practicing mindfulness meditation for a few minutes each day can actually boost willpower by building up the area of the brain that regulate emotions and decision-making.

Go slow, Go systematically:

To achieve a big change we should always break the same in smaller part and start completing parts to achieve your Goal. for example, if you want to do diet, start with the small step of avoiding junk foods, then adding healthy food and so on.

Power of paying attention:

  • We need to pause for couple of seconds, before we think, before we say anything, or before we take any decisions.
  • Just practice this one thing for a month and you will see a magical change in your life.

Get a Good Sleep:

A good rest is mandatory for our body and mind to work perfectly. Moreover, adequate rest improves our willpower and self-control and provide a good environment for the brain to function. 7-8 hours of sleep is an adequate rest.

Deal with your temptations:

Plan in advance how you will deal with your temptation. For example when you are going to attend, a party decide in advance that you will not have more than one piece of desert.

 Do the opposite of what we are used to do:

  • When we do something opposite of what we are used to do normally, that requires willpower and self-control.
    • For example, consciously use your hand other than the dominant hand; say for example for brushing your teeth or to open the door or to hold your mobile phone.
  • When we make small changes and succeed, we develop the ability to make bigger one.

Make your To-do List:

we will be stressed if we are not completing simple task in time or tend to forget things. A “to-do” list is a good tool to remember your entire task and once it is in written form and in front of you. You will complete your tasks in time and this will reduce your stress level and increase your willpower.

Take breaks:

You will not always be at your peak in exercising willpower or self-control. That is why small breaks are important for your body and mind to re-energize.

Reward Yourself:

Play it like a Game. Decide your reward of completing something in advance and your brain will automatically work toward achieving the same.

Do not quit at any cost:

When we start making any positive changes, there will always be hurdles. Anticipate your hurdles in advance and plan your action how you will deal with it. When you feel like quitting, just remember why you have started at first place? Why do we want change? What we are trying to achieve?

Answering these questions will increase your willpower and you will continue walking toward your Goal

The truth is, the brain can be reprogrammed. You just have to give proper thoughtful commands.

If you truly want to practice self-control, YOU have to start by controlling YOUR OWN THOUGHTS.

Be mentally strong by willpower, Conclusion and Key Take away:

Self-control and Willpower like a muscle can be strengthened with the right practice. The more you exercise on a regular basis, the stronger you get.

The above-mentioned are the 10 most effective and practical ways to strengthen your willpower and practicing self-control. Do not try all 10 at once. However, choose one or two best suitable ways for yourself and practice them regularly to achieve the desired results.

As your self-control increases, the more your gain the ability to control and direct your life in a manner that is harmonious with the true you.

It is better to master the mind than to be mastered by the mind.

If you want to become mentally strong boost your willpower. Here are the 10 tips.
10 tips to boost your willpower

Comment your favorite life quotes, will publish with link to your blog

Hello Friends,

Let’s accumulate few wonderful life quotes this Sunday.

Please comment your favorite quotes in comment section and read and appreciate other’s quotes.

I will accumulate all the quotes and will create a post with link to your blog.

Few quotes from my side:

  • You are the programmer of your life, write your own program.
  • Focus on possibility not on difficulty.
  • One very very small thing can change everything at anytime.
  • Consume knowledge over entertainment.
  • Start today, tomorrow is for the loser.
  • Don’t force yourself to fit into someone’s box.

It’s your turn now, use comment box to write your quotes. I will publish the same with link of your blog.

Learn How to overcome failure first, if you want SUCCESS

It is true that you can learn much more from failure than from success. Learn to overcome failure and Success is guaranteed. Let us discuss the ways.

It is true that you can learn much more from failure than from success, and it is true that every successful person went through a series of failures before reaching the top. The thing which is important here is not success, what is important is overcoming failure. So today let us learn How to overcome failure.

The truth is that failure is never the end of the road. It is simply an indicator that there are some parts of ourselves and our lives that we need to put more effort into in order to get the results that we desire.

Story of Caterpillar:

A biology teacher was teaching his students how a caterpillar turns into a butterfly. He told the students that in the next couple of hours, the butterfly would struggle to come out of the cocoon. But no one should help the butterfly. Then he left.


The students were waiting and it happened. The butterfly struggled to get out of the cocoon, and one of the students took pity on it and decided to help the butterfly out of the cocoon against the advice of his teacher. He broke the cocoon to help the butterfly so it didn’t have to struggle anymore. But shortly afterwards the butterfly died.


When the teacher returned, he was told what happened. He explained to this student that by helping the butterfly, he had actually killed it because it is a law of nature that the struggle to come out of the cocoon actually helps develop and strengthen its wings. The boy had deprived the butterfly of its struggle and the butterfly died.

NOTHING WORTHWHILE EVER COMES WITHOUT A STRUGGLE.

“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.”

“There is no such thing called failure, there are always outcome or result.”

Learn How to overcome Failure:

“Don’t ever let someone tell you that you can’t do something. you have got a dream, you gotta protect it. when people can’t do something themselves they are going to tell you that you can’t do it. you want something. go get it.”

“Be like a postage stamp, stick to a thing till you get there.”

1. Acknowledge the failure and Embrace your Emotions:

It is important to acknowledge failure in your life when it happens. Failure is accompanied by a variety of emotions; embarrassment, anxiety, anger, sadness, and shame to name a few. Those feelings are uncomfortable and many people will do anything they can to escape feeling emotional discomfort.

However, allowing yourself to feel bad is motivating. It can help you work harder to find better solutions so that you will improve next time. This will help you to identify what it is you need to focus on, so that you can approach the situation in a new way for success in the future.

2. View Failure as Learning Opportunity:

“As far as you are learning from your failure or mistakes, they are not failure or mistakes.”

Shift your perspective and view failure as an opportunity to grow and learn. Once you see failure as learning opportunity, you can then begin to approach it with a different mindset; a mindset that will help you to quickly transform your actions into ones that lead to success.

3. Accept an Appropriate Level of Responsibility:

Accepting a correct level of responsibility for your failure will help you in learning from the failure and this experience will help you to gain future success. On the other hand, blaming other people or unfortunate circumstances for your failure will prevent you from learning from it.

4. Create a plan and Learn how to overcome failure:

Replaying your failure in your mind repeatedly will not do you any good. Therefore do not allow yourself to ponder on all the things that went wrong. Dwelling on your problems or repeating your mistakes will keep you stuck.

Instead, think about what you will do differently next time. Create a plan that will help you put the information you gained from failing into practice.

5. Find inspiration and Support:

A conversation with your near and dear ones is very helpful. In addition, You can read Books, motivation articles or watch inspirational Videos.

This may not be specifically about your current challenge but can help you to shift your mood and mindset back towards optimism again.

Learn How to Overcome Failure, Stories of Failure of Successful People

Below are the examples of failures of the successful people:

  • Thomas Edison failed approximately 10,000 times while working on the light bulb.
  • Henry Ford was broke at the age of forty.
  • Young Beethoven was told that he had no talent for music, but he gave some of the nest music to the world.
  • We all knows the failures and struggles of Abraham Lincoln before he was elected as President of United States at the age of fifty-two.

Read any Biography or Autobiography of a successful person, they all has overcome,

  • Unsuccessful and difficult Times
  • Struggle and Pain
  • Criticism
  • Fear of Failure
  • Failure
  • Thoughts of giving up

So, do not be afraid of your struggle or failure. Learn How to overcome failure, success is waiting for you.

“Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” ~ Winston Churchill

Conclusion and Key Take away:

Let me summaries this post and learning from this post in below one liners.

  • You have failed in the task or project, not in life.
  • What you are becoming in life is important than Failure or success.
  • Failure adds to your experience, now you are one version better from previous.
  • Focus on possibility not on difficulty
  • Overcoming Failure will require Behavior and Belief shifting

Read my post on Fear at

Knowing what is Fear is important than how to overcome

Book Recommendation on this topic

Learn to overcome failure
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How to Build Resilience, 10 smartest and practical ways

In the current pandemic situation, it is very important for all of us to build resilience. Let us understand 10 practical ways to build resilience.

In my previous post Understand resilience, its attributes and your own score, we have understood what resilience means and what are the attributes of resilient people. Now, In this post we will learn how to build resilience.

So today we will discuss some simple, smart and practical ways in which each one of us can build and improve resilience. As we all know resilience is very important in tough situation like this pandemic.

10 ways to build Resilience:

1. Make and nurture good relationship:

Good relationships with close family members, friends or others are important. Accepting help and support from those who care about you and will listen to you strengthens resilience. Moreover, this gives a sense of feeling that we have people whom we can discuss our problems.

2. Do not see crisis as undefeatable problems:

You cannot change the fact that highly stressful events happen. However, you can change how you interpret and respond to these events. Try looking beyond the present to how future circumstances may be a little better.
In addition, note down any subtle ways in which you might already feel somewhat better as you deal with difficult situations.

3. Take crucial actions:

Act on adverse situations as much as you can. Take decisive actions, rather than detaching completely from problems and stresses and wishing they would just go away. So, you need to remeber this

Always remember, the outside environment is same for all, what makes us different is what lies inside us.

4. Keep things in perspective:

Even when facing very painful events, try to consider the stressful situation in a broader context and keep a long-term perspective. Avoid blowing the event out of proportion.

5. Attitude of Gratitude to build Resilience:

Always count your blessings rather than focusing on your difficulties. Moreover, you have survived and thrived till now, you will survive this also. Try to see what all things and people you have in this difficult situation and be grateful of those.

Gratitude plays significant role in building resilience, Therefore you might wish to understand more on gratitude, these two posts will help you.

Gratitude Meaning
Analysis of Gratitude in our Life

6. Focus on Building Physical Hardiness.

What kind of small changes can you invest in to improve your health? (Better sleep, better nutrition, hydration, exercise, etc.)

Moreover list one small change you can make now and do that consistently and you will see improvement in your life.

7. Identify and Use Your Strengths:

Describe a time when you were able to overcome or handle a major challenge in life.

What did you learn about yourself?
What personal strengths did you draw upon?

Moreover, focusing on the strengths gives you power. And remembering a situation which you conquered last time helps you in improving your resilience and give you strength to fight the current situation.

8. Build Goals to Build Resilience:

Having a sense of where you are going in life is important. Therefore, set some realistic Goals and regularly work towards them. Setback will happen but resilient people keep the destination in mind and always work toward reaching the destination.

Learn how to set Goals

9. Look for opportunities to know yourself:

Engage in new things and actively look for new opportunities that put you out of your professional and personal comfort zone. These experiences help people learn about themselves and in addition will surely provide a feeling of growth and achievement.

Ways to unleash your hidden potentials

10. Take care of Yourself:

Pay attention to your own needs and feelings. In addition, engage in activities that you enjoy and find relaxing. Exercise regularly. Taking care of yourself helps to keep your mind and body informed to deal with situations that require resilience.

Key Takeaways on how to build Resilience:

One should have people with whom you can share yourself and take guidance. Apart from good relationship one should have capacity to take some decisive actions in time. A sense of Gratitude is very important in building resilience, as until we become happy and grateful for things and people we have we cannot build resilience to fight the situation.

Last but not the least, One need to take utmost care of himself/herself and focus on developing some key skills and try to figure out the opportunity in disguise.

10 practical ways to build resilience in current pandemic situation

The Art of questioning, master this art for successful life

A child ask so many questions in a day, and that is how a child learns. We all should learn the Art of Questioning from a child. We learn from asking only.

It has happened n number of times to me in the past. My brain has had a question, but I have always stopped it from slipping out, thinking I would make a fool out of myself. Only later would I realize that somebody else asked a similar question. And were applauded for asking such a great question! Do you relate to this situation. Then you need to understand the art of questioning.

The art and science of asking questions is the source of all knowledge. Thomas Berger

What makes us human, I think, is an ability to ask questions, a consequence of our sophisticated spoken language. — Jane Goodall

Interesting fact on art of questioning:

At the age of four, children ask over 400 questions a day. Between the ages of two and five, the average child will have asked about 40,000 “why” questions, simply because they do not know.
As we age, apparently we do. By the time, we reach 44, adults only ask around six questions/day, mainly because we think either we know or are afraid of admitting that we do not.

Some one liners on Art of questioning:

  • Millions saw the apple fall, but Newton asked why. And rest is the history.
  • We don’t know what we don’t know, and won’t know unless we ask questions.
  • The people who do not ask questions remain clueless throughout their lives.
  • It is fine to be a fool for a minute by asking a question then to be a fool for life time by not asking.
  • Knowing the answers will help you in school. Knowing how to question will help you in life.

Now we have understood the importance of asking questions let us discuss the few wonderful benefits of asking questions

Benefits of asking question:

  1. We learn about life:
    We all see a child asking so many questions in a day that is how a child learns about everything. This is the best method for learning, which we all stop applying when we grow up.
  2. It will keep you humble:
    It reminds you that you do not know everything, and that is perfectly fine. As there are gaps in your knowledge, which you are filling up.
  3. It improves quality of our life:
    The quality of our lives is directly related to the quality of our thinking. “The quality of our thinking, in turn, is determined by the quality of our questions.
  4. It also prevents self-satisfaction:
    It signals a thirst for new data and an unwillingness to be content with the current status quo.
  5. Questioning makes you more open:
    Your mind start working logically and it gives information already stored in the brain once you start asking questions.
  6. You understand people better:
    Most people love to answer questions about themselves.  We’re all hungry to be understood, not just because we want to get our way but because we want to feel important. 
  7. It improves your decision-making ability:
    as asking questions will give you all types of perspective for the situation in hand.
  8. It will give you happiness:
    as asking right and logical question will make you happy and satisfied.

Analysis so far:

So now you must be thinking that I will give you some tips for asking wonderful questions or to improve your art of questioning. NO, I am not going to give you any such tips as I believe there are no tips as such.
There cannot be a short cut for practice and perseverance. So to ask wonderful questions we need to practice asking questions. and with continuous practice and habit of asking questions we will improve the quality of our questions.

In the next post we will analyze why people do not ask questions, what are the reasons and the possible solutions.

Till then you can check my list of questions to ask yourself to know the progress of your life

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Remember these powerful words, if you want to master Art of questioning.
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