Why People Don’t appreciate, your response when you feel unappreciated

Have you ever felt that you are doing your best, but people are still not appreciating? If yes, then you must understand why people don’t appreciate it.

We often think that, I am doing my Best, but nobody is appreciating it. I am doing many things for him / her yet, He / She is not noticing or appreciating it. The question here is why people don’t appreciate.

Few of the general question comes to anyone’s mind on appreciation are:

  • I am doing everything, however by Boss / Manager never appreciate me.
  • Why my Colleagues never appreciate my work?
  • What should I do to get appreciation?
  • Why don’t people appreciate?
  • My Manager / Boss does not appreciate me.
  • Why I am not getting any appreciation?
  • What to do if I am not getting appreciated for my work?
  • What to do if I am not getting noticed?
  • How to gain appreciation?
  • How can I appreciate others?
  • What to do when you don’t feel valued at work?
  • How to treat people who don’t appreciate the things you do for them?
  • How to stay Motivated while feeling unappreciated or underappreciated?
  • What to do when you don’t feel unappreciated or undervalued at work?

So Friends I will try to answer all of the above questions. Let’s start the journey.

Appreciating and Complimenting others is an Etiquette which people often fail to understand.

Different people have different reasons for not appreciating or complementing others. Some might feel a little shy in speaking up, some feel that their opinion doesn’t matter, some do not even have the sensibility of appreciating others while some hesitate because their appreciation is not acknowledged.

Reason why people don’t appreciate others:

1. EGO: People feel that if they appreciate another person they admit that he/she is better than them and their arrogance and ego never allows it.

2. Jealousy: People simply don’t appreciate another person, because they think that they would have done this better than that person.

3. Shyness: Few people by nature are very shy, even if these types of people really want to appreciate you, they are not able to appreciate.

4. People are not appreciating you because you are not appreciating them.So few people think that I will appreciate that person only when that person first appreciate me.

5. They must be appreciating others: It’s not like people are not appreciating at all, they might be appreciating others but not you. Try and find out the reason, why they are not appreciating you, if you want to.

6. Appreciation getting not acknowledged: Like you feel that your work is not getting noticed or appreciated, people also feel that their appreciation is not getting acknowledged. This is the reason people think twice before appreciating others.

7. Does my appreciation matters: Few people also thinks that whether their opinion or appreciation matters to that person or not. If they feel it does not matter to other person, they will not appreciate.

What we should do if people don’t appreciate us:

Don’t think too much on it, ignore it.

You can only do your best. And if they can’t appreciate that, it’s their problem, not yours. You keep doing good work for yourself because you were not doing that for others or just for want of appreciation.

Self – appreciation:

We should appreciate ourselves, if we don’t appreciate ourselves, how someone else will. And most important thing is that self – appreciation is in our own control.

If you are not getting what you want check what you are giving. ©

So we must think and analyze whether we are appreciating people enough or not. Start appreciating people genuinely and it will come back to you for sure.

It’s Okay if people don’t appreciate

Do not think that you are good or talented only when someone notices you or appreciates you. you keep doing your good work whether people notices it or not.

Be proud of yourself

Be proud of yourself that you continue to do good things in-spite of being ignored. Very few people can do this. Notice that whether your performance is improving from last time or not. If you can notice and appreciate your own progress that is the best compliment you can ever get.

Getting appreciation is not the prime motive

Appreciation should not be the prime motive for you to take up a task. Do it out of self interest and appreciate your own work. Appreciation can be a by product of doing good work, it should not be your main product or main objective.

Why People don't appreciate
Analysis of reasons why people don’t appreciate

Read this post from Karlien on her blog

Make yourself proud

Six Rules to live an attractive and meaningful Life

Today let us discuss Six Rules to live an attractive and meaningful Life. These six rules are further made up of six sub rules so that we can understand each rule perfectly.

Hello friends, today let us discuss Six Rules to live an attractive and meaningful Life. These six rules are further made up of six sub rules so that we can understand each rule perfectly.

Rule 1: Six things that will destroy you:

  1. Your Ego
  2. Bad Friends or Negative People around you.
  3. Negativity inside you
  4. Always thinking what other will say or always listening to others
  5. Loving only materialistic things
  6. Bad Habits or Bad Addictions

Rule 2: Six Rules which will help you win in Life:

  1. Set a Goal for your life
  2. Stay Honest and Humble
  3. Leave your comfort zone, as you will grow outside your comfort zone only.
  4. Compare yourself to old you and not with others
  5. Reading books and learning new skills
  6. Never Quit

Rule 3: Six enemies to your productivity:

  1. Watching TV or browsing Social Media more than required
  2. Trying to do multitasking
  3. Saying Yes to everything and every task
  4. Procrastination
  5. Trying to be perfectionist.
  6. Worrying and No action.

I have already written a detailed post on this you can read that at Habits that reduces our productivity, focus and efficiency

Rule 4: Six rules to Live a happy Life:

  1. Don’t worry
  2. Don’t Hate
  3. Give more
  4. Expect Less
  5. Live simply
  6. Have Goal / purpose in Life.

Rule 5: Six things to give up as early as possible:

  1. Toxic and Negative People
  2. Negative thoughts and self-doubt
  3. Making excuses
  4. Living in the past
  5. Trying to please everyone
  6. Fear of failure or fear of change.

I have written a detailed post on Knowing what is Fear is important than how to overcome . read this post to conquer any of your fear.

Rule 6: Six hobbies for a perfect Life:

  1. One to make money
  2. One to keep yourself creative
  3. another to keep yourself Fit
  4. One to build knowledge
  5. One to evolve your mindset
  6. last but not the least one to serve the Society
Six Rules to Live a attractive Life
Six Rules to Live a meaningful Life

Social skills – simple guidance on how to develop it

If you feel you are the awkward person at social events or you struggle to start a conversation, you need to develop social skills and this post is for you.

If you feel like you’re the awkward person at social events and functions or you struggle to start a conversation because you’re shy, it can impact your social life and your career. Social skills, such as communication, empathy, interpersonal and listening skills, are beneficial not just to your personal life but also to your professional life. So let us discuss more about social skills in today’s post.

What are the social skills?

Social skills are the skills we use to communicate and interact with each other. Social skills include written, verbal, nonverbal and visual communication used to relay a message to others. Common ways in which you exercise your social skills are:

  • The language you use
  • The tone, pitch and volume of your voice
  • Gestures you make
  • Facial expressions
  • Your body language
  • Eye contact with others when communicating

How to develop social skills:

  • Learn people’s name :- We feel really good if in the second meeting people remember our name and address us with our name. Remembering the name of the person is very important thing.
  • Encourage others to talk about themselves:- When you speak, you say what you know, but when you listen you will definitely learn something new.
  • Interrupt less:- The best appreciation we can give a person is ‘attentive and interesting listening’. So be a Good Listener.
  • Ask questions where people can answer much more than simple “Yes” or “No”
  • listen with intent to learn and understand:- we often listen to reply not to understand, but if we listen to understand we can develop good relationship.
  • Promote others good work :So if you like this post you can share this and drop your favorite post in comment section so that I can read your post.

Few more simple and effective tips

  • Offer genuine compliments and appreciation
  • Read Books about social skills
  • Say please and thank you, these two words cost nothing but can create huge value for the other person.
  • Give without expecting a get, but I bet you will definitely get if not from the same person then from others.
  • Pay attention to your body language, when you speak as well as when you listen.
  • Stay up to date on current news and stories so that you have something to talk about
  • Don’t respond to negativity
  • Don’t nitpick, no one is perfect try to understand people.
  • Be positive, be happy

First learn to listen and then you will learn by listening. ©

How to measure your progress on social skills:

Give yourself a rating from 1 to 5 (where 1 is ‘Never’ and 5 is ‘Always’) for below questions:

  • Are you aware of what types of emotions you are feeling
  • Can you easily ask for help
  • How easily and how frequently you say ‘Thank you’
  • How much comfortable you are in receiving negative feedback
  • Rate yourself as a Good Listener
  • How easily you can give compliment to other person.
  • How comfortable you are in introducing two people
  • Can you say sorry when you have done something wrong
  • How much you are comfortable in starting a conversation
  • Rate yourself in understanding other people’s feeling.

More on understanding yourself

Know and understand yourself… Self-Awareness

How to develop social skills
Ways to improve your social skills score

Quotes on Love, Dream, Success, Attitude etc. to understand Life

Quotes on Love, Dream, Success, Attitude etc. to understand Life. and Best Happiness and Life Tips. Let us understand Life by Quotes.

Understanding Life by Quotes

Quotes on Understanding:

No one is perfect that is why understanding is important.

Understanding is deeper than knowledge. There are many people who know you, but there are very few who understand you.

Quotes on Love:

There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.

Moreover, the importance of love in our life is that it washes away the dust of loneliness from your heart.

Quotes on Time:

Some talk to you in their free time and some free their time to talk to you. Learn the difference.

The best time to start was yesterday. The next best time is now.

Relationship:

Everyone wants to improve relationship, but they want other person should start first.

One day we will forget each other, if we think why I should contact them, if they do not contact me.

Dreams:

If you don’t build your dream someone else will hire you to help them build their.

Follow your dreams instead of following others.

Success:

Success isn’t about how much money you make; it’s about the difference you make in people’s life. and

If you have strong commitment to your goals and dreams, if you wake up every day with a passion to do your job, everything is possible.

Attitude:

A bad attitude is like flat tire, If you don’t change it you’ll never go anywhere.

You know, Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react to it.

Smile:

A good life is when you smile often, dream big, laugh a lot, and realize how blessed you are for what you have.

Let your smile change the world but don’t let the world change your smile.

Trust:

Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle the hold all relationships.

Never trust someone that let you down more than two times. Once was a warning, twice was a lesson and anything more than that is taking advantage.

Funny and Sarcasm:

Life is too short to keep unnecessary:

Apps in your phone

Feeling in your heart

People in your life

Uninstall.

If people say something bad about you, judge you as if they know you, don’t feel bad just remember Dogs barks if they don’t know the person.

Read my post on

Know and understand yourself… Self-Awareness

Self-Discipline, How to bring discipline in Life

Self-discipline begins with Mastering control on your own thoughts. If you don’t control what you think, you can’t control what you do.

Self-discipline begins with Mastering control on your own thoughts. If you don’t control what you think, you can’t control what you do.

Read Power of our thoughts… for mastering your thoughts.

Self-discipline is about controlling your desires and impulses while staying focused on what needs to get done to achieve your Goal.

You know most of us break the self-discipline everyday, that too before the day starts. It gets broke when we snooze our Alarm Clock.

If you want to get up at 6.40 in the morning set Alarm for 6.40 only, rather than setting at 6.30 and snoozing it for 10 minutes.

Self-discipline is when you are responding instead of reacting. – ©

So now let us discuss how to achieve self-discipline:

  • Become comfortable with discomfort. If you are in comfort zone then come out of comfort zone How?.. Read this …How to come out of comfort zone…
  • Visualize your success, which will make you stay focused towards your Goal.
  • Learn to manage your time by managing priorities – If you want to know how to manage priorities read my article Utilizing time effectively by Priority Management…
  • Do regular Mediation and exercise, this will increase your will – power, focus and concentration.
  • Learn to say NO, else you will be running out of time always.
  • Think before you make a commitment and and once you have made commitment then complete that commitment.
  • Know your weaknesses and try and improve on those weaknesses.
  • Set Goal in life and have an execution plan to achieve the same.
  • Challenge yourself, Start doing what you are afraid of doing.
  • Form some Good Habits, First you form habits and then habits forms you… Read my post on 30 habits which will make you successful…
  • Forgive yourself, learn from failure and move forward.
  • Have an attitude of gratitude.
  • Learn to forgive people, whether to forget or not is up to you.
  • Eat Healthy , Stay Healthy.
  • Early to bed and Early to rise

Will talk on benefits of self-discipline in next post.

Self-Discipline
How to discipline yourself