August 2

Self-Improvement

Never stop learning, because life never stops teaching

What is Self-Improvement

Self-improvement is the improvement of one’s knowledge, status, or character by one’s own efforts.

इसे हम थोडा detail में समझते है….

हम Self-improvement के बारे में तभी सोच सकते है, जब हम  ये मानने के लिए तैयार हो की, हम मैं भी कुछ कमिया हो सकती है, और self-improvement की आवश्यकता है,क्यों की कोई भी person Perfect नहीं होता है, लेकिन हम कोशिश कर के अपनी कमियों को दूर कर सकते है|

What we need to do for Self Improvement

  1. Self-Control- सबसे पहले हमें अपने आप पर control करना होगा, क्यों की हमें जब भी self-improvement का ख्याल आता है, तो हम आज की बजाय कल पर टाल देते है, यदि आप चाहते है की आप में improvement आये, तो इसके लिए आप को सबसे पहले अपने आप पर control करना होगा
  2. Do little more – Self Improvement के लिए आप को कल से बेहतर करना होगा, इसके लिए ज्यादा कुछ करने की जरुरत नहीं है, बस आप को, अपने बीते हुए कल से थोडा ज्यादा करना होगा, Little Bit….More……….
  3. Paint yourself with  New Skills– जब घर में हम Paint कराते है, तो घर नया जैसे लगने लग जाता है, जबकि घर तो पुराना ही होता है, ठीक वेसे ही हमें भी नए Paint…….. यानी की New Skills की जरुरत है self –improvement के लिए,  Learn New Skills……. For better tomorrow…………
  4. Develop a new habit- कहते है की आदत बदलने से लोग बदल जाते है, Self-improvement के लिए हमें हमारी आदत को बदलना पड़ेगा, हमें हमारी regular आदत को change करना है,यदि आपकी आदत Books पढने की नहीं है, तो Start reading books for Self-Improvement, क्यों की Books पढने से आपका knowledge ही बढेगा, आप मेरी post HABIT- change your Habit, Change Your Life  वाली post पढ़ सकते है|
  5. Set Goal or Target- आप self-improvement के लिए goal set करे, क्यों की जब तक आप कोई goal set नहीं करेंगे, तब तक क्या करना है, मालूम नहीं होगा और आप अपने goal की तरफ आगे नहीं बढ़ पाएंगे|
  6. Positive Self-Talk- हमारा mind 24*7 चलता ही रहता है, हम दिन भर कुछ न कुछ सोचते ही रहते है, Negative or Positive,….. बस हमें केवल positive ही सोचना है या मैं ऐसा कहू आप जब भी अपने आप से बाते करे, तब आप positive ही बात करे, ऐसा करने से आपके mind में positive विचार आयेंगे और उसका result भी positive ही आएगा|
  7. Ask Questions- जब तक आप पूछेंगे नहीं, आप को पता नहीं चलेगा की, आप को क्या करना है, कैसे करना है, कब करना है, अपने आप से ये सवाल पूछे, सवाल पूछने से आप की जानकारी ही बढेगी, और यदि कुछ कमी हुई तो आप उसमें सुधार कर सकते है|
  8. Be Ready for Changes- हम change से डरते है, यदि आप self-improvement चाहते है तो आप को change के लिए हमेशा तैयार रहना होगा, ये change कुछ भी हो सकता है जैसे सुबह जल्दी उठना, TV नहीं देखना, exercise करना और वो सब Changes जो आपको डराते हो.
  9. Leave your Comfort Zone- Self-Improvement के लिए आपको अपने Comfort Zone से बाहर आना होगा|Comfort Zone- The way to come out of it.
  10. Believe in Yourself-लोगो को अपने आप पर भरोसा ही नहीं होता है, की वो भी कर सकते है, अपने आप पर भरोसा करना की, मैं कर सकता हूँ, ऐसा सोचना भी अपने आप में एक नई energy भर देता है|

इस तरह आप अपने आप में Improvement ला सकते है, बस आवश्यकता है तो अपने आप पर भरोसा करने की और एक कदम बढ़ाने की…….

July 3

How to become Self-Aware, 7 steps guide

In my previous post on Know and understand yourself… Self-Awareness we have understood the meaning of Self-awareness, what are the things which we should be aware of, what are the benefits of self-awareness. So today let us understand how to become self-aware. what is the process of becoming self-aware.

Step 1: Self-Reflection

Whenever someone do something that seems to be particularly annoying or irritating you, ask yourself: Could this be a reflection of something in me that I dislike? Do I do some version of that?

Step 2: Goal Settings

Plan out your goals so they turn from ideas into a step-by-step process. Break down your larger goal into mini-goals so it seems less overwhelming. Once your focus will be on your Goals your thought will revolve around that and you will become more self-aware.

Step 3: Take help from your friends

Ask a trusted friend to describe you. Allow your friends to feel safe while they are giving you an informal yet honest view.

Step 4: Meditation

Meditation is the practice of improving your mindful awareness. A regular mindfulness practice will open your eyes to how the thinking mind works and how much more there is to you than the mere content of your thoughts.

Step 5: Seek feedback about yourself

Here’s a question: How often do you deliberately seek out feedback about yourself?
because good feedback is one of the fastest and most effective ways to grow and improve ourselves.

Step 6: Be in the present moment

learn how to live in the present moment, learn to stop worrying about the future or the past. You can be completely in the moment and focus on what is happening to you at present.

Step 7: Develop new skills

Just like traveling forces us to become more self-aware by throwing us into new situations, learning something new increases self-awareness by forcing us to think and act in new ways.

Conclusion

Self-awareness is simply the capacity to observe our selves—to take notice of and pay attention to patterns within our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. And it’s a skill that we all have.

It’s not easy to develop this level of introspection. Most people are afraid to be truly honest with themselves about their strengths, weaknesses, and current challenges. But if you implement the ideas that are outlined in this post, then you’ll develop a level of self-awareness that will help you grow as a person.

July 2

Know and understand yourself… Self-Awareness

In today’s world, people spend more time judging others, rather than spending time in knowing and understanding ourselves. So today let us spend good 10 minutes reading this post which will enable you to know and understand yourself.

Meaning:

Dictionary Meaning: conscious knowledge of one’s own character and feelings.

Self-awareness is the ability to take an honest look at our life without any attachment to it being right or wrong, good or bad.

Self-awareness is our capacity to stand apart from ourselves and examine our thinking, our motives, our history, our scripts, our actions, and our habits and tendencies. – Stephen Covey

What we should know and understand about ourselves:

  • What am I good or bad at?
  • and What makes me tired or energized?
  • How much sleep do I need?
  • What is the most important thing in my life?
  • What makes me afraid?
  • Who are the most important people in my life?
  • What stresses me out and what relaxes me?
  • and what makes me sad; happy or angry?
  • What’s my definition of success?
  • and what’s my definition of happiness?
  • What type of worker am I?
  • What type of person do I want to be?
  • How do I want others to see me?
  • What type of friend do I want to be?
  • What do I think about myself?

Benefits of being self-aware or knowing and understanding ourselves:

Being self-aware is really an awesome place to be, and there are multiple benefits of knowing and understanding ourselve. Some of the benefits are:

  • It helps you live a happier, more fulfilling, and genuine life.
  • You will be able to act consciously instead of reacting to people and events.
  • The ability to genuinely love yourself.
  • Being genuinely happy rather than pretending you are.
  • Greater depth of experience and enjoyment of life.
  • You start to understand your subconscious and why you think the way you think.
  • You will be able to control the negative thoughts and will think more positively.
  • The ability to make your dreams come true.
  • You will become solution-oriented rather than problems oriented.
  • You will become more honest with yourself and others.
  • Being the real you.
  • You become a much nicer person when you become self-aware
  • Living courageously and without limits.
  • You don’t suffer from regrets.
  • You know what you want and when you know what you want you won’t be a frustrated person.
  • Your decision making will improve.
  • You will have inner peace.

So till now we have understood, what is self-awareness, what are the things we should know about ourselves and the benefits of being self-aware. Now the bigger question arises is how to become Self-aware. We will discuss about that in the next post in length.

Know and Understand yourself
and lets start the journey today itself

Till then you can read my other post on the Self Series, below are the links:

Self-Acceptance
Self-Action
Self-Discipline