Learn to overcome failure first, if you want SUCCESS
It is true that you can learn much more from failure than from success, and it is true that every successful person went through a series of failures before reaching the top. The thing which is important here is not success, what is important is overcoming failure. So today let us learn to overcome failure.
The truth is that failure is never the end of the road. It is simply an indicator that there are some parts of ourselves and our lives that we need to put more effort into in order to get the results that we desire.
Story of Caterpillar:
A biology teacher was teaching his students how a caterpillar turns into a butterfly. He told the students that in the next couple of hours, the butterfly would struggle to come out of the cocoon. But no one should help the butterfly. Then he left.
The students were waiting and it happened. The butterfly struggled to get out of the cocoon, and one of the students took pity on it and decided to help the butterfly out of the cocoon against the advice of his teacher. He broke the cocoon to help the butterfly so it didn’t have to struggle anymore. But shortly afterwards the butterfly died.
When the teacher returned, he was told what happened. He explained to this student that by helping the butterfly, he had actually killed it because it is a law of nature that the struggle to come out of the cocoon actually helps develop and strengthen its wings. The boy had deprived the butterfly of its struggle and the butterfly died.
NOTHING WORTHWHILE EVER COMES WITHOUT A STRUGGLE.
“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.”
“There is no such thing called failure, there are always outcome or result.”
Learn to overcome Failure:
“Don’t ever let someone tell you that you can’t do something. you have got a dream, you gotta protect it. when people can’t do something themselves they are going to tell you that you can’t do it. you want something. go get it.”
“Be like a postage stamp, stick to a thing till you get there.”
1. Acknowledge the failure and Embrace your Emotions:
It is important to acknowledge failure in your life when it happens. Failure is accompanied by a variety of emotions; embarrassment, anxiety, anger, sadness, and shame to name a few. Those feelings are uncomfortable and many people will do anything they can to escape feeling emotional discomfort.
However, allowing yourself to feel bad is motivating. It can help you work harder to find better solutions so that you will improve next time. This will help you to identify what it is you need to focus on, so that you can approach the situation in a new way for success in the future.
2. View Failure as Learning Opportunity:
“As far as you are learning from your failure or mistakes, they are not failure or mistakes.”
Shift your perspective and view failure as an opportunity to grow and learn. Once you see failure as learning opportunity, you can then begin to approach it with a different mindset; a mindset that will help you to quickly transform your actions into ones that lead to success.
3. Accept an Appropriate Level of Responsibility:
Accepting a correct level of responsibility for your failure will help you in learning from the failure and this experience will help you to gain future success. On the other hand, blaming other people or unfortunate circumstances for your failure will prevent you from learning from it.
4. Create a plan and Learn how to overcome failure:
Replaying your failure in your mind repeatedly will not do you any good. Therefore do not allow yourself to ponder on all the things that went wrong. Dwelling on your problems or repeating your mistakes will keep you stuck.
Instead, think about what you will do differently next time. Create a plan that will help you put the information you gained from failing into practice.
5. Find inspiration and Support:
A conversation with your near and dear ones is very helpful. In addition, You can read Books, motivation articles or watch inspirational Videos.
This may not be specifically about your current challenge but can help you to shift your mood and mindset back towards optimism again.
Learn to Overcome Failure, Stories of Failure of Successful People
Below are the examples of failures of the successful people:
- Thomas Edison failed approximately 10,000 times while working on the light bulb.
- Henry Ford was broke at the age of forty.
- Young Beethoven was told that he had no talent for music, but he gave some of the nest music to the world.
- We all knows the failures and struggles of Abraham Lincoln before he was elected as President of United States at the age of fifty-two.
Read any Biography or Autobiography of a successful person, they all has overcome,
- Unsuccessful and difficult Times
- Struggle and Pain
- Fear of Failure
- Thoughts of giving up
So, do not be afraid of your struggle or failure. Learn to overcome failure, success is waiting for you.
“Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” ~ Winston Churchill
Conclusion and Key Take away:
Let me summaries this post and learning from this post in below one liners.
- You have failed in the task or project, not in life.
- What you are becoming in life is important than Failure or success.
- Failure adds to your experience, now you are one version better from previous.
- Focus on possibility not on difficulty
- Overcoming Failure will require Behavior and Belief shifting
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