July 17

Social skills – simple guidance on how to develop it

If you feel like you’re the awkward person at social events and functions or you struggle to start a conversation because you’re shy, it can impact your social life and your career. Social skills, such as communication, empathy, interpersonal and listening skills, are beneficial not just to your personal life but also to your professional life. So let us discuss more about social skills in today’s post.

What are the social skills?

Social skills are the skills we use to communicate and interact with each other. Social skills include written, verbal, nonverbal and visual communication used to relay a message to others. Common ways in which you exercise your social skills are:

  • The language you use
  • The tone, pitch and volume of your voice
  • Gestures you make
  • Facial expressions
  • Your body language
  • Eye contact with others when communicating

How to develop social skills:

  • Learn people’s name :- We feel really good if in the second meeting people remember our name and address us with our name. Remembering the name of the person is very important thing.
  • Encourage others to talk about themselves:- When you speak, you say what you know, but when you listen you will definitely learn something new.
  • Interrupt less:- The best appreciation we can give a person is ‘attentive and interesting listening’. So be a Good Listener.
  • Ask questions where people can answer much more than simple “Yes” or “No”
  • listen with intent to learn and understand:- we often listen to reply not to understand, but if we listen to understand we can develop good relationship.
  • Promote others good work :So if you like this post you can share this and drop your favorite post in comment section so that I can read your post.

Few more simple and effective tips

  • Offer genuine compliments and appreciation
  • Read Books about social skills
  • Say please and thank you, these two words cost nothing but can create huge value for the other person.
  • Give without expecting a get, but I bet you will definitely get if not from the same person then from others.
  • Pay attention to your body language, when you speak as well as when you listen.
  • Stay up to date on current news and stories so that you have something to talk about
  • Don’t respond to negativity
  • Don’t nitpick, no one is perfect try to understand people.
  • Be positive, be happy

First learn to listen and then you will learn by listening. ©

How to measure your progress on social skills:

Give yourself a rating from 1 to 5 (where 1 is ‘Never’ and 5 is ‘Always’) for below questions:

  • Are you aware of what types of emotions you are feeling
  • Can you easily ask for help
  • How easily and how frequently you say ‘Thank you’
  • How much comfortable you are in receiving negative feedback
  • Rate yourself as a Good Listener
  • How easily you can give compliment to other person.
  • How comfortable you are in introducing two people
  • Can you say sorry when you have done something wrong
  • How much you are comfortable in starting a conversation
  • Rate yourself in understanding other people’s feeling.

More on understanding yourself

Know and understand yourself… Self-Awareness

How to develop social skills
Ways to improve your social skills score
July 12

Quotes on Love, Dream, Success, Attitude etc. to understand Life

Understanding Life by Quotes

Quotes on Understanding:

No one is perfect that is why understanding is important.

Understanding is deeper than knowledge. There are many people who know you, but there are very few who understand you.

Quotes on Love:

There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.

Moreover, the importance of love in our life is that it washes away the dust of loneliness from your heart.

Quotes on Time:

Some talk to you in their free time and some free their time to talk to you. Learn the difference.

The best time to start was yesterday. The next best time is now.

Relationship:

Everyone wants to improve relationship, but they want other person should start first.

One day we will forget each other, if we think why I should contact them, if they do not contact me.

Dreams:

If you don’t build your dream someone else will hire you to help them build their.

Follow your dreams instead of following others.

Success:

Success isn’t about how much money you make; it’s about the difference you make in people’s life. and

If you have strong commitment to your goals and dreams, if you wake up every day with a passion to do your job, everything is possible.

Attitude:

A bad attitude is like flat tire, If you don’t change it you’ll never go anywhere.

You know, Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react to it.

Smile:

A good life is when you smile often, dream big, laugh a lot, and realize how blessed you are for what you have.

Let your smile change the world but don’t let the world change your smile.

Trust:

Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle the hold all relationships.

Never trust someone that let you down more than two times. Once was a warning, twice was a lesson and anything more than that is taking advantage.

Funny and Sarcasm:

Life is too short to keep unnecessary:

Apps in your phone

Feeling in your heart

People in your life

Uninstall.

If people say something bad about you, judge you as if they know you, don’t feel bad just remember Dogs barks if they don’t know the person.

Read my post on

Know and understand yourself… Self-Awareness

June 20

Why People Don’t appreciate, analysis of reasons

We often think that, I am doing my Best, but nobody is appreciating it. I am doing many things for him / her yet, He / She is not noticing or appreciating it. The question here is why people don’t appreciate.

Appreciating and Complimenting others is an Etiquette which people often fail to understand.

Different people have different reasons for not appreciating or complementing others. Some might feel a little shy in speaking up, some feel that their opinion doesn’t matter, some do not even have the sensibility of appreciating others while some hesitate because their appreciation is not acknowledged.

Reason why people don’t appreciate others:

  1. EGO: People feel that if they appreciate another person they admit that he/she is better than them and their arrogance and ego never allows it.

2. Jealousy: People simply don’t appreciate another person, because they think that they would have done this better than that person.

3. Shyness: Few people by nature are very shy, even if these types of people really want to appreciate you, they are not able to appreciate.

4. People are not appreciating you because you are not appreciating them.So few people think that I will appreciate that person only when that person first appreciate me.

5. They must be appreciating others: It’s not like people are not appreciating at all, they might be appreciating others but not you. Try and find out the reason, why they are not appreciating you, if you want to.

6. Appreciation getting not acknowledged: Like you feel that your work is not getting noticed or appreciated, people also feel that their appreciation is not getting acknowledged. This is the reason people think twice before appreciating others.

7. Does my appreciation matters: Few people also thinks that whether their opinion or appreciation matters to that person or not. If they feel it does not matter to other person, they will not appreciate.

What we should do if people don’t appreciate us:

Don’t think too much on it, ignore it.

You can only do your best. And if they can’t appreciate that, it’s their problem, not yours. You keep doing good work for yourself because you were not doing that for others or just for want of appreciation.

Self – appreciation:

We should appreciate ourselves, if we don’t appreciate ourselves, how someone else will. And most important thing is that self – appreciation is in our own control.

If you are not getting what you want check what you are giving. ©

So we must think and analyze whether we are appreciating people enough or not. Start appreciating people genuinely and it will come back to you for sure.

It’s Okay if people don’t appreciate

Do not think that you are good or talented only when someone notices you or appreciates you. you keep doing your good work whether people notices it or not.

Be proud of yourself

Be proud of yourself that you continue to do good things in-spite of being ignored. Very few people can do this. Notice that whether your performance is improving from last time or not. If you can notice and appreciate your own progress that is the best compliment you can ever get.

Getting appreciation is not the prime motive

Appreciation should not be the prime motive for you to take up a task. Do it out of self interest and appreciate your own work. Appreciation can be a by product of doing good work, it should not be your main product or main objective.

Why People don't appreciate
Analysis of reasons why people don’t appreciate

Read this post from Karlien on her blog

Make yourself proud

September 19

Learning about Life from Ad Slogans… Part 3

When we watch television we normally avoid watching Advertisements. However, if you watch the advertisement carefully and listen there slogans, many of the Ad slogan gives us Learning about life. We can apply those little slogans in our life and we can surely improve our life.

Read part 1

Learning about Life from Ad Slogans…Part 1

Read part 2

Learning about Life from Ad Slogans… Part 2

1. Airtel   : Express Yourself

We must learn to express ourselves. Most of the time we have many things to say, but we fail to express ourselves. This could be because of lack of self – confidence, thinking that what other will say.

Please keep in mind that “ To gain knowledge, we must learn to ask the right questions; and to get answers, we must act, not wait for answers to occur to us.”

 2. LIC: Zindagi ke Saath bhi, zindagi ke baad bhi

We must live such a life that people remember us during our life as well as after our life got over.

3. Airtel– Kyun ki har ek friend jaruri hota hai

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4. Head & Shoulders: You never get a second chance to make a first impression.

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August 24

What is Love, forms of Love and which is Best

In Life we get love from different people and relationships. So today let us analyses what is Love, what are the different forms of Love and which is Best.

What is Love:

I think love cannot be defined in a single paragraph without any context to the person whose love we are trying to define. So let us understand What is Love in the context of the related person.

What is love of Mother:

Do you know why Love is Blind? Because our Mother started loving us before seeing our face.

5 missed calls from Mom

Son: I have told you not to disturb me when I am at work.

Mom: Waiting outside your office as you forgot your lunch box.

Let us understand Father’s Love:

A Good Father is one of the most unsung, upraised, unnoticed and yet one of the most valuable assets in our society.

They say men don’t love dolls, but when they’re blessed with one, they can’t stop fiddling with her.

The reason why daughter love their dad most is that there is at least one man in the world who will never hurt her.

What is Love of Brother:

A brother is a friend given by nature.

There’s no other love like the love for a brother. There’s no other love like the love from a brother.

Sister’s Love:

There can be no situation in life in which the conversation of my dear sister will not administer some comfort to me.” – Mary Montagu

There’s nobody in the world that knows me better than my sister.” – Tia Mowry

Friends Love:

A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.

A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words

Understanding Partner and Partner’s Love:

Love is not about finding a good partner. It is also about being a good one.

A great relationship is about two things, first find out the similarities, second respect the differences.

Which Love is Best:

When I came home in the rain,
My Brother Asked: Why you Didn’t take an Umbrella.
Sister:(Advised) why didn’t you wait till rain stopped.
Father(Angrily): Warned! only after getting cold, you will realize.

Mother: while drying my Hair, said,
“STUPID RAIN! couldn’t it wait, till my child came home.”
Thats MAA (Mother)

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