Knowing what is Fear is important than how to overcome

We normally tend to a short term solution of a problem and same we do with fear. We try to find tips on overcoming fear without Knowing what is fear. Read the full post.

As the heading itself suggest that Knowing what is fear is important than how to overcome fear. We will focus today on understanding what is fear.

What is Fear:

Dictionary meaning of Fear:
“An unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or harm”

Here two important word that you need to note is “Emotion” and “threat”. Therefore, fear is an emotion and it is caused by a threat, which means that the event has not happened and even the actual happening or not happening of the event is not even certain.

Fear is nothing but a story, which we tell ourselves over and over again.

Knowing what is Fear and Understanding it in detail:

Consider a Situation; if someone sticks a gun in your face, you will most likely have a lot of fear because you are imagining what he or she will do and what the effect will be for you.

Now consider the second situation; if you are feared in general that just walking down the street that someone will pull a gun on you?

Let us evaluate both the situation and understand the fear,

In the first situation, Danger is in front of you and you are imagining the outcome of this, which may happen at any time.

Whereas in the second situation nothing has happened, you are not only imagining the outcome, moreover, you are imagining the Cause itself i.e. Danger.

In our life most of the time our fear is of the second category.

One more perspective which will help you in knowing what is fear:

We do not touch fire, why, are we afraid of fire or we know that we will burn our hand if we touch fire. Try to understand the difference in both the scenario; I am trying to simplify the thing, which we often confuse. So not touching the fire is not due to fear, here the danger is real and we know that we will burn our hand if we touch fire.

Reason of Fear:

You need to understand we are not afraid of the situation, we are afraid of the outcome of the situation.
Let us understand this, Say for example someone says He/ she is afraid of heights, this means that they are not afraid of heights, they are afraid of the outcome, what if they will fall down. Again, the outcome is not universal truth like in the example of fire; it is just imaginary, which only born in our mind.

Let us further evaluate this understanding; here is the list of Top Ten Fears in the Life:

Something Bad Happening
Getting Hurt
Being Judged

Read more about these fears in this link. Moreover, once you read about these fears in details, you will understand that these are just created in our own mind in some imaginary situations while we think of some future outcome.

What I am trying to demonstrate here is that all these fears are “Fears” because we are afraid of the outcome. The outcome is a future thing, so understand that Fear is born due to our thinking of Future outcomes.

Let us go back to our example and understand Fear in some more details:

Now let us go back to our example, where someone put a Gun on your face. Here we are facing our Fear, which fears, which we were imagining that what if someone pulls a gun on my face. If we are facing our fear then why we are afraid of.

Here you need to understand that, we do not fear as a result of someone has put a gun on our face, we cannot be afraid of that because that is happening in the present. Then why and what are we fearing for. Here we are afraid of another imaginary outcome, which is Death. What if he will shoot me dead?

Overcoming Fear:

As at the start I have told you that Knowing what is Fear is important than how to overcome it. So I am not giving you any tips to overcome a particular fear as your fear is different from my fear, I will give you a general principle to overcome fear.

When we will detach ourselves from the Outcome / Results (which is future) and focus on the Task (which is the present) we will not be afraid of anything.

Bhagavad Gita also say Karm Karo fal ki chinta mat karo.

Bhagavad Gita 2.47 translation: “You have control over performing your act, but you are not entitled to the fruits of action. Never be a slave to the outcome of an act but still, you should not be demotivated to perform your action.

If we follow this principle, we will not be afraid of the outcome and once our focus will shift from Outcome to Action or performing duties, fear will automatically disappear.

Conclusion: Knowing what is Fear is important than how to overcome

Let us conclude the topic with few wonderful quotes:

“Too many people are thinking of security instead of opportunity. They seem to be more afraid of life than death.”
— James F. Byrnes

“Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.”

Read my post on Self-Awareness

Mathematics of Life, Learn from Math symbols

Mathematics of Life. Mathematics is very important subject, Few may hate it or Few may love it. But I am sure you all will love this post.

Let us today understand the mathematics of Life or learning about life from Mathematics. Will talk on few most used symbols in Mathematics and try to apply the same in life.

1. Additions (+):

Let us understand what we should add in our life:

  1. Value: Add richness and value to your own life by adding value to the lives around you.
  2. Laughter: Even while you are, working hard to simplify your life and dealing with serious things look for opportunities to laugh with your whole heart.
  3. Meaning: Spend some time trying to sort out what is important in your life and why it is important.
  4. Gratitude: Express your gratitude aloud. Be grateful for everything you have.
  5. Kindness: Be kind to yourself and to others. Kindness does not cost anything.
  6. Patience: As you simplify your life, be patient with the people in your life who aren’t there yet
  7. Skills: Add new skills and keep sharpening your skills.
  8. Joy: Find little things that bring you great joy.
  9. Challenge: Add challenges in your life; Keep doing new challenging things, which will make your life interesting.
  10. Meditation: Do meditation and exercise to keep yourself mentally and physically fit.

2. Subtractions (-):

We should remove
Fear | Regret | Comparison | Negativity | Past | Complaining |Overspending |Sorrow
From our life.

3. Division (÷):

We should share
Happiness | Time | Problems | Stress | Worries
With our loved one, so that we should not feel alone and should not feel depressed.

4. Multiplication (X):

We should try to multiply
Relationships | Experience | Knowledge | Positivity | Fitness | Self-Worth
In our life.

5. Greater Than (>):

This is very important symbol in Maths and in our life also, let us evaluate this:

  1. What we have is > what we are lacking
  2. What we can control is > what we cannot control
  3. Your experience is > your problems
  4. What is within yourself is > what is outside
  5. Your positivity is > other people’s negativity
  6. Your self-worth should be > your net-worth


If we will apply these learning from Mathematics in our life , then Equation of our Life will be balanced and perfect.

In my next post we will learn about life from mathematics problem solving principles.

To read more on Gratitude read my below posts:

Meaning of Gratitude and things we take for granted

Gratitude in our Life Analysis with few Questions

Learn from Mathematics

The Philosophy About Too Much

The Philosophy About Too Much

1. If you speak too much, you will lie
2. If you think too much, you will be depressed
3. If you cry too much, you will lose your sight
4. If you love too much, you will be lost
5. If you care too much, you will be taken for granted
6. If you play too much, you will not be taken serious often
7. If you trust too much, you will be betrayed
8. If you work too much, you will die of stress
9. If you eat too much, you will be obsessed
10.If you sleep too much, you will be idle
11. If you spend too much, you will have no future
12. If you wear make up too much, you will lose your beauty
13. If you look too much, you will lose your focus
14. If you pursue life too much, you will lose everything.


* When you pray too much, you will have everything
* When you are patient too much, you will have the whole world
* When you invest too much, you will have your future guaranteed
* When you let go too much, you will have peace of mind
*When you are careful too much, you will be saved of many evils.


Manish Malu

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