June 20

Why People Don’t appreciate, analysis of reasons

We often think that, I am doing my Best, but nobody is appreciating it. I am doing many things for him / her yet, He / She is not noticing or appreciating it. The question here is why people don’t appreciate.

Appreciating and Complimenting others is an Etiquette which people often fail to understand.

Different people have different reasons for not appreciating or complementing others. Some might feel a little shy in speaking up, some feel that their opinion doesn’t matter, some do not even have the sensibility of appreciating others while some hesitate because their appreciation is not acknowledged.

Reason why people don’t appreciate others:

  1. EGO: People feel that if they appreciate another person they admit that he/she is better than them and their arrogance and ego never allows it.

2. Jealousy: People simply don’t appreciate another person, because they think that they would have done this better than that person.

3. Shyness: Few people by nature are very shy, even if these types of people really want to appreciate you, they are not able to appreciate.

4. People are not appreciating you because you are not appreciating them.So few people think that I will appreciate that person only when that person first appreciate me.

5. They must be appreciating others: It’s not like people are not appreciating at all, they might be appreciating others but not you. Try and find out the reason, why they are not appreciating you, if you want to.

6. Appreciation getting not acknowledged: Like you feel that your work is not getting noticed or appreciated, people also feel that their appreciation is not getting acknowledged. This is the reason people think twice before appreciating others.

7. Does my appreciation matters: Few people also thinks that whether their opinion or appreciation matters to that person or not. If they feel it does not matter to other person, they will not appreciate.

What we should do if people don’t appreciate us:

Don’t think too much on it, ignore it.

You can only do your best. And if they can’t appreciate that, it’s their problem, not yours. You keep doing good work for yourself because you were not doing that for others or just for want of appreciation.

Self – appreciation:

We should appreciate ourselves, if we don’t appreciate ourselves, how someone else will. And most important thing is that self – appreciation is in our own control.

If you are not getting what you want check what you are giving. ©

So we must think and analyze whether we are appreciating people enough or not. Start appreciating people genuinely and it will come back to you for sure.

It’s Okay if people don’t appreciate

Do not think that you are good or talented only when someone notices you or appreciates you. you keep doing your good work whether people notices it or not.

Be proud of yourself

Be proud of yourself that you continue to do good things in-spite of being ignored. Very few people can do this. Notice that whether your performance is improving from last time or not. If you can notice and appreciate your own progress that is the best compliment you can ever get.

Getting appreciation is not the prime motive

Appreciation should not be the prime motive for you to take up a task. Do it out of self interest and appreciate your own work. Appreciation can be a by product of doing good work, it should not be your main product or main objective.

Why People don't appreciate
Analysis of reasons why people don’t appreciate

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Make yourself proud

June 19

Life: Make your own definition for yourself

Accept no ones definition of your life; Define yourself.

One Life. Keep it simple

– follow your dreams
– be curious
– learn new skills
– think outside the box
– do what you love
– love what you do
– be grateful for what you have
– speak your heart
– be yourself
– don’t procrastinate
– take time for travel
– eat healthy
– Read more
– smile often
– make other smile if you can
– love deeply
– make new friends
– keep old friends
– enjoy the little things
– celebrate small success
– live every moment.

Change your thinking
It will change your habits
Habits will change your actions
Action will ultimately change your life.

Your Life is your message to the world

Six Rules to live an attractive and meaningful Life

June 18

Life changing advice by Quotes – Series… 6

Now a days people are focusing on improving the picture rather than the “Image”.©

“Who you are becoming” is more important than “who you have been”.

The first step to achieving any “Goal” is to write it down. ©

First learn to listen then you will learn by listening. ©

Do not compare yourself with any one, you are Unique and a Master Piece. ©

Correcting a wise man is always better and easier than correcting a fool.

You can still carry yourself well if you are “physically overweight”, but you can’t if you’re “mentally overweight”. ©

If your vision is clear, you will see the problem as well as the solution.©

Let go the things, which you cannot control and focus on the things, which you can control.

If you ignore your ignorance you will never learn in life.©

Having vision and having only sight is different thing. Have vision for your life.

If you are seeing only problems, then you have some problem. ©

Earlier part of this series:

Life changing advice by Quotes – Series… 5

Life changing advice by Quotes – Series… 4

Life changing advice by Quotes – Series… 3

Life changing advice by Quotes – Series… 2

Life changing advice by Quotes – Series… 1

June 14

How to Manage Stress, 11 wonderful and practical Ideas…

In today’s fast life, everybody is having some kind of stress. So it’s become very important to understand the reason for stress and how to manage stress. So let’s start with understanding the meaning.

What is Stress: – Stress is the body’s reaction to any change that requires an adjustment or response. The body reacts to these changes with physical, mental, and emotional responses. Therefore Stress is a normal part of life.

Before we discuss how to manage stress let’s first discuss, is stress always bad?

Stress when taken positively can do miracles. Because:

  • It helps you to be on your toes.
  • May result in creativity.
  • Goal accomplishment without procrastinating
  • Accelerate the pace of doing things.
  • Stress also helps in achieving your goals without much distraction.

lets understand why a person is stressed:

  • If you have some health issues, you have an illness like heart disease, diabetes, or arthritis.
  • If you cannot express your anger.
  • You have some grief or guilt.
  • You have problems with your relationships.
  • Or you are going through some major life changes like the death of your near and dear, losing a job, or moving to a new city.
  • If someone from your family member is stressed.
  • When there is conflict in the values, which you believe, like you, are a family man and always want to give quality time to your family, but could not actually give.
  • The area where you live is crowded, are polluted.
  • You are not socially strong or facing any kind of discrimination.
  • You are not happy with your job.
  • Having stressed, ohhh… yes, you are more stressed because you cannot resolve your stress. So, NOT solving stress is stressful.
  • You are not able to priorities the task in your personal and professional life.

Before the situation goes beyond our control, we need to manage our stress level. So, here comes few thoughts to manage our stress. We need to apply these thoughts in our life to manage our stress.

Do not force yourself to fit in where you don’t belong. So, here is what you need to do,

  1. Delete some people from your life like we uninstall the unwanted apps in our smartphone. In addition, this gives space for someone else.
  2. Moreover, Don’t force yourself to fit into someone’s box.

Do not overburden yourself with responsibilities for the sake of happiness; it might lead to the path of disappointment.

  1. Don’t procrastinate and keep things for the last moment. In addition,
  2. Don’t make unnecessary commitments just to be nice and
  3. Take only that much responsibility, which you can handle. Therefore Learn to say NO. Again the Apps Rule applicable. By saying NO, you are making space to say YES to the deserved ones.
  4. Avoid overdoing things and unhealthy competitions.

In addition, be who you are and say what you feel. It’s not being rude, It’s being real.

  1. Don’t trade your authenticity for approval. Moreover,
  2. Be real and say what you feel. It will save a lot of time and trouble.
  3. Don’t care what others think of you and
  4. If there is anything, you can improve from criticism, work toward it, and otherwise ignore criticism.

You cannot pour from an empty cup, therefore take care of yourself first.

  1. Don’t get attached to anything in life; neither people nor things.
  2. Be with people who appreciate what you do for them In addition,
  3. Serve only those who deserve moreover serve only what they deserve.

Keep your Remote Control in your own hand. So,

  1. Don’t carry harsh feeling in the heart. Keep your intentions pure.
  2. Don’t tolerate unnecessary drama moreover,
  3. Don’t give anyone the power to control your feelings.

Do not Look back as you are not going that way. Therefore,

  1. Make peace with the past. Let it go and live in the moment.
  2. Don’t hold grudges; forgive and be free.
  3. Love yourself. Be confident and believe in yourself and most important
  4. Be grateful for what you have rather than focusing on what you do not have.

Being emotional is not a sign of weakness. So,

  1. Never deny your feeling rather accept and acknowledge them.
  2. Vent out your emotions without hurting anyone (including you).

Do not compare, you are unique and Master Piece.

  1. Plan things in advance; foresee the possible outcomes and be prepared.
  2. Stop regretting, comparing, and complaining.

Define your priorities and work accordingly. Therefore,

  1. Eat and live healthily. 
  2. Make time to do what you love and have fun.
  3. Spend time with loved ones.

You should never regret anything in life, if it is good, it is wonderful. If it is bad, it is an experience after all. Therefore,

  1. Appreciate the good instead of bashing the bad.
  2. No matter what happens, believe things will work out. Nothing is permanent.
  3. Stay positive. You have come this far. You will make through this too moreover,
  4. Remember there is always something to be happy about, find out that.

When you share your problem, it does not mean you are weak by any measure, moreover, it actually indicates is your high level of trust of others. So,

  1. Talk to your friends and colleagues.
  2. Share your problem with your family and with your spouse.

In the same set of situation few people breaks records, and few people break themselves.

In conclusion, I will say the solution to Manage stress is STRESS. Therefore,

S- Self-Acceptance. Start to Love Yourself
T- Think Positive and act positively
R- Rest and Re-set your life
E- Embrace your life
S- Share your problems with your near and dears
S- Surround yourself with positive people.

How to manage Stress
11 wonderful ways for stress management

June 9

Life changing advice by Quotes – Series… 5

Upgrade yourself regularly, else you will get uninstalled.

Be like a mirror, every rub will polish you more and you will shine.

Successful failure is better than a failed success.

Be there for others, but never leave yourself behind.

Always Smile, You don’t own all the problems of the World.

Be modest a lot was accomplished before you were born.

Keep focus on yourself, until focus is on you.

Until you learn a lesson in life, it will get repeated.

I am working on myself, by myself, for myself.

You need to make peace with your past else it will keep reflecting in your present.

Your life is your message to the world. Make sure it’s inspiring.

Earlier part of this series:

Life changing advice by Quotes – Series… 4

Life changing advice by Quotes – Series… 3

Life changing advice by Quotes – Series… 2

Life changing advice by Quotes – Series… 1